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Posts: 763 (07/04/09 4:21 PM) mush bucket Reply Quote More My Recent Posts Message Me Connection Blocking Invite	Tags : None If I admit publicly to being socially awkward, will someone help me out with some advice? Pretty please with sparklies on top? HOW LONG DO YOU WAIT??? I met a guy a few weeks ago (no, I don't mean ned or clobby, lol). I thought we hit it off instantly and made a deep, intimate connection. We had a fun date. I wrote him the next day, very short note and said I'd like to see him again. He agreed. Then--nothing. So I wait like a week or so and send him another note. He agrees, says he lost my number and would I give it to him again. Sure, no prob. Then--nothing. Now I don't know. Should I just TAKE THE HINT? If I wait too long, I look like I'm not interested. If I don't wait, I look desperate. Are there RULES for this kind of thing? I fucking hate this not knowing one way or another. My str8t girlfriend says take the hint. My gay friend says no, you have to pull these types of guys out or they don't respond. I'm so cornfoosed! "From the body to the soul, where our hearts lead we must go . . . wherever love may flow." ~ Dead Can Dance in "Oman"
bendnkrack		#1	[-]
Posts: 12405 (07/04/09 4:29 PM) RACKET MAN Reply Quote More My Recent Posts Message Me Connection Blocking Invite	I'm not a gay man so I have no clue about having to pull him out of his shell. But I have experienced men like this and I wish I had just taken the hint instead of wasting my time on their wishy-washy asses. In my experience if a guy really wants to see you he will. That said, if you really like him then force the issue. It's a man on man situation so my boy-girl rules probably don't apply. Either you'll get what you want or look desperate to some dude who you shouldn't care what he thinks anyway. I like to be true to what I want and deal with the consequences later. No regrets.
Smack		#2	[-]
Posts: 765 (07/04/09 7:53 PM) mush bucket Reply Quote More My Recent Posts Message Me Connection Blocking Invite	Yes! Thanks bendy, that makes a lot of sense to me! It's not so much that I was worried about him thinking I'm desperate. It was that nagging doubt about what if it IS too soon? Like maybe there is some rule I don't know about. Social or cultural rule or something. Because I'm thinking if I took the initiative three times, would that seem unbalanced or uncommon? But anyway, I get what you're saying and I agree, I should just assume the stance that I gave him plenty of chances and he blew me off, so his loss, move on. Then again, I've encountered some California gay guys who have pretty radical notions about what is culturally acceptable. So I dunno. I wonder if gay men are truly more romantic than straight men or if that is just a myth. "From the body to the soul, where our hearts lead we must go . . . wherever love may flow." ~ Dead Can Dance in "Oman"
jane1958		#3	[-]
Posts: 1189 (07/05/09 2:09 PM) Jane Lafitte Reply Quote More My Recent Posts Message Me Connection Blocking Invite	Maybe he is one of those who lose stuff easy, may have lost the number again and too embarrased to ask, make a big dinner call and tell him you were in a cooking mood and overcooked thought he might like it too so does he want to come by and eat with you.
Smack		#4	[-]
Posts: 766 (07/05/09 7:34 PM) mush bucket Reply Quote More My Recent Posts Message Me Connection Blocking Invite	Aw Janie, you're so cute I just wanna give you a big smooch! And I think if he tasted my cooking he'd prolly run for the hills, lolz! "From the body to the soul, where our hearts lead we must go . . . wherever love may flow." ~ Dead Can Dance in "Oman"
bitwrangler		#5	[-]
Posts: 18174 (07/07/09 4:48 PM) check your colander... Reply Quote More My Recent Posts Message Me Connection Blocking Invite	"He's just not that in to you." That said, I left a note on Bert's door a week after I hadn't heard from him. Rest is history...the jury is still out if it was a good thing to do...LOLOL I say, reach out. He may think YOU were supposed to call. If he hems and hee haws, move on. Life's short. Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away. -- george carlin
jane1958		#6	[-]
Posts: 1194 (07/08/09 5:21 PM) Jane Lafitte Reply Quote More My Recent Posts Message Me Connection Blocking Invite	time to stake out his local coffee shop by accident on a shopping mission, get a bag from a kewl store for the hand though.

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